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Not to mention the fact that as a woman she wouldn’t be allowed to vote, let alone be in government, let alone run for president if the Founding Fathers had anything to say about it. 

Not to mention the fact that as a woman she wouldn’t be allowed to vote, let alone be in government, let alone run for president if the Founding Fathers had anything to say about it. 

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A vote for Romney is a vote against me

To my friends and family members planning to vote for Mitt Romney:

First and foremost, you are as entitled to your opinions as I am mine. I understand that our politics differ. You may not want to vote for Barack Obama for a few or a wealth of reasons. You may simply want to vote against him, and Mitt Romney seems the likeliest candidate to be beside the checkbox opposite Obama. However, I do want to share a few things with you, which you make take or leave; I ask only that you consider them.

If Mitt Romney is elected president and ends Obamacare, my fiancée and I will become uninsured. He will “champion a Federal Marriage Amendment to the Constitution defining marriage as between one man and one woman,” which means my fiancée and I will not be able to be married until the Constitution is amended again. It also means that regardless of how we go about “officially” committing to one another, there will be 1,138 federal rights denied to us as a couple. Additionally, Romney opposes same-sex domestic partnership benefits. This will affect our rights as parents and our children’s rights. In February, Romney said: “I’m not concerned about very poor; they have [a] safety net.” I’m not exactly sure what Romney means by “very poor” or “safety net,” but according to my income, I am below the poverty line in this country. If I were to get sick or injured and require extensive time off of work, I wouldn’t be able to make ends meet (especially not if I were also uninsured if Obamacare were dissolved in Virginia). There is no safety net. At the moment, I do not owe money back on my $26,000+ (not counting the $10,000+ in interest) on my student loans because I am below the poverty line. If Romney chose to change this and I owed money on my loans each month, I wouldn’t be able to make ends meet.

These are just a few of the issues on the book, but they’re enough for me to make my point. You may think marriage equality, Obamacare, and poverty are liberal concerns or values. However, these things directly affect me, someone you love, someone who loves you; never mind the political label. I need health insurance and my job doesn’t provide it, so I need to be on my mom’s plan for now. I want to get married to the love of my life. I want us to have the rights of marriage. I want to have rights as a partner and a parent. I need a President who is concerned about me knowing that I do not have a safety net. I am fresh out of college, working three jobs, with student loans looming over my head, dreaming of marrying the love of my life, fearing that my country will move backwards and become an even more inhospitable place for us to live. 

Obama is not perfect. He hasn’t fixed everything. He doesn’t have all the answers. However, Romney endangers my life as I know it and as I dream of it being. If you dream of sitting at my wedding looking down the aisle at two healthy brides able to afford a wedding, be legally married, and enjoy the same marriage rights as straight couples, please vote carefully. A vote for Romney is a vote against that dream I hope you share with us.


— 2 years ago with 2 notes
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Value Our FamiliesValue Our Families

Value Our Families


In the intensifying debate over same-sex marriage, what I sometimes find hardest to understand is why so many opponents don’t see gay people’s longing to be wedded as the fundamentally conservative, lavishly complimentary desire it is. It says marriage is worth aspiring to and fighting for. Flatters it. Gives it reinvigorated cachet, extra currency, a sorely needed infusion of fresh energy.

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If those seem like odd phrases to attach to what is sometimes called holy matrimony, well, consider the unholy state the institution is in. Around the time last week that New Jersey Gov. Chris Christie was vetoing a same-sex marriage bill that the Legislature had passed, The Times published a front-page story by Jason DeParle and Sabrina Tavernise reporting that the country had reached an ignoble milestone: more than half of births to American women under 30 happen outside marriage. I doubt that a significant fraction of those babies’ parents are gay men or lesbians forbidden to wed. No doubt the huge majority are straight people who haven’t bothered to.

Those who do bother don’t make such an impressive go of it. Although there’s dispute over the divorce rate in this country, most authorities estimate that between 40 and 50 percent of first marriages won’t last. And practice doesn’t make perfect: the divorce rate apparently rises for second and third unions, like Newt Gingrich’s with Callista, a supposedly pious Roman Catholic woman whose devotion didn’t dissuade her from sleeping with him while he was married to his second wife.

The religiousness of this country’s social conservatives is a selective, capricious, hypocritical thing. Some Catholics who cite church teaching to explain their opposition to same-sex marriage have broods much smaller than they likely would if they let nature have its way. They’re using artificial birth control, which, as we’ve recently been reminded, the church officially rejects, a stance that illuminates just how ludicrous some orthodoxies are.

It’s funny (but, then again, not): in the past, homosexuals were denounced as sexual libertines who brazenly flouted society’s norms. Now many of us are pleading to be yoked to those norms, only to be told by many Americans, including many political leaders, that that’s not O.K. either. The only possible takeaway is that we’re meant to be outliers forevermore, unworthy of the experiences and affirmations accorded others.

Christie’s veto — considered alongside the fervent support for marriage equality that Andrew Cuomo, the New York governor, and Martin O’Malley, the Maryland governor, have shown — provides telling clues about how the issue will shake out politically in coming years.

A Republican with designs on national office has to assume that even in 2016, a gay-friendly record would be a burden in the primaries, which tug moderates far to the right. If Christie fantasizes about a future presidency — or an imminent vice presidency — opposition to marriage equality is probably the safer bet.

But has he risked his chances at a second term in New Jersey, which is more liberal than the nation? Cory Booker, the Newark mayor, who is frequently mentioned as a possible Democratic challenger to Christie next year, explicitly reaffirmed his support for same-sex marriage last week.

I don’t discount the possibility that a measure of conviction informs politicians’ actions. But there’s usually calculation in the mix. Cuomo and O’Malley are rising Democratic stars whose advocacy for same-sex marriage suggests confidence that more Americans are moving in that direction. In polls, large majorities between the ages of 18 and 34 support marriage equality, and when I talk to parents of teenagers, many tell me their children simply don’t understand discrimination against homosexuals. And their children aren’t permissive across the board: many oppose abortion. They’ve grown up with more evocative sonograms than once existed.

By this week’s end, O’Malley may be signing a marriage-equality law in Maryland. The State of Washington just adopted its own. Although either could be overturned by referenda later this year, the legislative momentum is undeniable, and O’Malley’s words of support point an interesting way forward.

He has framed same-sex marriage in part as an attempt to take proper care of children in households headed by two men or two women by making sure their parents have the same legal protections and responsibilities — the same spurs to stability, however flawed — that heterosexual parents do. And that exact logic was cited by a previously reluctant Republican in the Maryland House who voted in favor of the state’s same-sex marriage bill last week.

Both politicians were talking about family values, two words that have often been invoked in the argument against same-sex marriage. It’s time to turn the phrase around. What gay and lesbian couples are asking is to be recognized as families. And they’re just idealistic enough to hope that everyone realizes how much value there is in that.

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Virginia Is Losing Its Mind
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Beating Babies in the Name of Jesus? The Shady World of Right-Wing "Discipline" Guides →

Dear Lord, please save me from your followers. This is f*ed up.

And you tell me how to live my non-violent and loving life, hypocrites.

— 2 years ago with 12 notes
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